For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11
Did you ever wonder why someone is your relative, friend or part of your circle of acquaintances? As we contemplate the celebration of Thanksgiving and as we look forward to the possibly of spending more time with some of the same people at Christmas, we may want to sit with God and ponder the purpose of our relationships – the good, the bad and the ugly!
If we believe God has a plan and that plan is good, then we must assume the people placed in our lives are there for a reason – the reason being ultimately good. So what does that mean for each of us?
Most people have a variety of relationships – with a spouse , children, or siblings or cousins or aunts or uncle, or in-laws or a best friend from childhood. So why has God placed you with your spouse, your brother or sister, your parents, your relatives, your neighbor, your best friend, or your co-workers or acquaintances you keep running into? What does God have in mind for you?
As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. Proverbs 27:17
One truth that is evident is that God gives us people who will help us grow in Him. We can see this principle played out in our own families. Ask yourself this question, “Am I closer to God than I was last year?” If so, then how so?
Did you have to struggle through an issue with your spouse or sibling or co-worker? Was it frustrating and hard – were their views different from yours? Do you feel like you made mistakes or you could have handled the struggle differently? Did you learn anything from the experience? Did you end up estranged from the person or did you end up closer to God or both?
Are you still angry at God and asking, “Why did that happen to me or why did you do that to me or why did you not save me from that?”
Do not get stuck in that cycle of self-pity. Set it aside. Remember who God is and His purpose for you. Then re-evaluate the situation in light of His goodness. Instead, think about how your relationship with others has sharpened you. Contemplate how you have grown in your love for God. Claim the power of His love by thanking Him for the experience and asking for help to carry on with this day – the day you are in.
As you look forward, remember those who are placed in your path and view them in light of God’s plan for you – plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Give Him praise and thanks for these people who are sharpening you with love, truth, and grace – even if they have no idea that they are part of God’s purpose for you and you are part of God’s purpose for them.
Head into today and tomorrow with anticipation that the people God places in your path are here for your “good” and not for your “harm”. Then, remember to allow yourself to be sharpened giving thanks in all situations for God’s love for you.